sigh…my sister got a job at a “breastaurant”

I didn’t know that term until I Googled “Tilted Kilt,” the Irish-themed restaurant at which my 18-year-old sister just acquired a hostess job. I had encouraged her to get a restaurant job. Sure, you’ll lose your faith in humanity. If you work at a restaurant, many people will assume “server” means “slave” and try to trip you, shake empty cups of ice at you to indicate their interest in a refill, pelt you with nickels, run out on the check. Slumpy old men will attempt to rub your hand (or other things) when you present them with a menu. But it’s good money and the hours work when you are in school.

So, my beautiful young sister listened to me for once and she got the job. Here’s the problem. This is the uniform (not my sister):


My immediate reaction to the image above (and my sister’s uniform photo on Instagram–a different photo) was abject horror. She’s not even a server. Just a hostess. So all of that and not even any tips.

But I am a feminist. Is there anything wrong per se with the image above, with any young women who decides to wear that uniform? Yes, this restaurant blatantly objectifies women for money, but am I not being paternalistic when I say that my sister or any other young woman should not wear that uniform? Women should be able to do whatever they want, right, as long as they aren’t hurting anyone? Be sex workers or astronauts! Hump stripper poles or study linguistics! It’s all good!!!

Except this is my sister. My sister who creepy guys will ogle (or worse!) as she clutches menus and leads them to their table. What is a hypocritical big sister to do?

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3 thoughts on “sigh…my sister got a job at a “breastaurant”

  1. Good for you for being a concerned sister… she’s only 18, so it’s great you still look out for her!

    You make a good point about women being able to do what they want as long as they aren’t hurting anyone, and I get what you are saying about ‘objectifying’.
    I know your sis is @ TK and not Hooters, but the Hooters website has an interesting (yes, slanted, but interesting) view on this…

    “Claims that Hooters exploits attractive women are as ridiculous as saying the NFL exploits men who are big and fast. Hooters Girls have the same right to use their natural female sex appeal to earn a living as do super models Cindy Crawford and Naomi Campbell. To Hooters, the women’s rights movement is important because it guarantees women have the right to choose their own careers, be it a Supreme Court Justice or Hooters Girl.”

    Either way, I don’t think you’re a ‘hypocritical big sis’ I think you are a cool big sis and she’s lucky to have you.

    We’ve been to Tilted Kilt and it’s a festive positive atmosphere; hopefully she will have some fun and make some big bucks!!
    (and maybe hook a big-sis up, huh!?)


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